Showing posts with label best friends. Show all posts
Showing posts with label best friends. Show all posts

Sunday, December 6, 2015

A Morning Visit!

two pinecones that have been painted sitting on a black plate
Some of the beautiful pinecones the ladies painted! 
With the end of my first semester here at UK approaching, final assignments and exams are becoming more frequent.  Trying to accomplish everything on my to-do list has been leaving me stressed and overwhelmed to say the least.  I have learned that time is precious, especially during finals.  However, volunteering at Best Friends Day Center makes that sacrifice of time all worth it in the end.  Even though I could have been writing a paper, practicing my speech, or studying for a test during that rainy Tuesday morning, I spent it painting pinecones, sharing laughs, and building relationships with people I have grown to love.  Although they won’t remember that morning, our time together impacted them (and me!) in that moment, and that’s all I could really hope for.  

a thanksgiving tree painted on a white canvas with puzzle pieces glued on top
The "Thankful Tree" Painting 
Since I normally go to Best Friends on Friday afternoon with a group of other students, going alone early on a Tuesday morning allowed me to see the day center in a completely different light.  There were significantly less friends there on this particular morning than there normally are in the afternoon.  I saw familiar faces, but also quite a few new ones as well.  It was a much more intimate setting since there were only three or four friends all morning.  It was also all women, so we had a fun “girls” morning — full of        painting, decorating, and crafting! 

a pink painted puzzle piece with the word family on it
A friend writes that she is most thankful for family.
We started off the morning sharing some mid-morning snacks (their favorites are orange sugar wafers and crackers) and some lemonade.  We then moved on to the craft part of the morning.  Since I visited the week before Thanksgiving, all of the friends were collectively working on a “thankful” tree that other volunteers and employees had painted.  Each friend could paint a puzzle piece and then write down what they are most thankful for at this point in their life.  I worked with a lovely woman who chose to paint her puzzle piece pink, saying she was thankful for her family.  Other friends had chose to write things like “life,” “everything,” and “having my mother, father, and sister.”   

a green painted pinecone
Another painted pinecone - this friend
 wanted hers to look like a Christmas tree! 
Afterwards, I helped the other friends paint pinecones to help decorate the facility’s Christmas tree.  We also worked on making little beaded wreaths from pipe cleaners and some donated beads.  These are all great activities for those suffering with irreversible memory loss because the tasks are so hands-on.  Even the women who claimed to not be very good at painting were fantastic once they got the brush in their hand!  Muscle memory is truly an amazing thing.  

Holidays were certainly in the air at Best Friends Day Center!  After crafting, it was time for me to leave.  During those two hours at Best Friends, how many times do you think I thought of my to-do list?  Of school work and finals?  Not one time.  Spending time with my friends at the Day Center always uplifts my spirits and allows me to take my mind off of my stressors and simply focus on what is important — people.  I am so blessed to have had the opportunity to volunteer at Best Friends this semester!  Can’t wait for the visits to come!  

Stay tuned for more posts.  Thanks!  

~ Also, all of the pictures you see above are actual pictures from the Best Friends Day Center.  Although we are unable to take photos with the friends, I got special permission to take photos of the artwork and some of the facility. Hope you enjoy!  ~ 


- Madalyn 

Sunday, October 18, 2015

Music, Memories, and More

This past Friday I got the privilege of going to spend some time with my best friends. During the few hours we spend together, we had an extremely busy schedule which consisted of:
Trivia Game About Inventions and Inventors
Exercise Time
Ice Cream and Good Conversations
Sing and Dance Time
I had so much fun with my best friends this past Friday that the two hour shift I had flew by, and I was sad to go.

For the trivia game, the group was split into two teams: The Mothers of Inventions and The Bluegrass Jewels (there was more women than men participants in the game). We had 4 categories titled Inventions, Inventors, Riddles, and Miscellaneous with point values ranging from 100 to 500. The teams were really encouraging of each other going through the game with both teams winning at the end. This made everybody ecstatic. The excitement of everybody being a winner led us to exercise time.

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Exercise time was good. We were able to stretch out our muscles from being so stationery doing the trivia game. Everybody had to sit during the game, so it was the time to get free and move around. We did kicks to exercise our legs and acted like boxers punching a punching bag for arm exercises. The group counted out loud for punches to stay together. To make it fun we counted in different languages: Spanish, English, French, and German, if I am not mistaken.  All that exercise worked us up a good appetite for some ice cream and good conversation.
As previously stated, we are not allowed to take photographs of the participants at Best Friends. Therefore, the pictures posted will be pictures received from different sources that get an accurate depiction of our time.
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Ice cream is given to the participants of Best Friends Day Center every day. During this time, the
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volunteers
have a chance to have relaxing conversations with our best friend of the day. This time of the day is the time that I value the most. I get the chance to sit and listen to the stories that they remember from their childhood to marriage and everything in between. It lets me develop a relationship with the person, and he or she truly become my best friend. However, once the ice cream is given, it is time to party with sing and dance.

Sing and dance time was great. A lady came in and led is in singing while she played the piano. The participants at Best Friends truly enjoy this part of the day. (Besides their most favorite part: ice cream.) We sang old hymns like Amazing Grace, more upbeat songs like She'll be Comin' Round the Mountain, and the most famous song, My Old Kentucky Home. Whenever, we sang a song that had a faster tempo, the members of Best Friends Day Center were up and dancing, They pulled some volunteers up with them to dance along as well.
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The best part of this time was seeing how much fun they were having. I was amazed by how well they remembered these songs. Most of them could barely read the lyrics from the songbook that was passed out; however, they did not need to because they knew the songs by memory. It made my heart happy to know that they may not be able to remember every event that took place throughout their lifetime, but they could hold on to one thing in their life: music.
Found at: http://bramleyea.org.uk/activities-services/groups/singing-for-the-brain/

I spoke to one of the leaders at Best Friends about the fact that the members are able to remember the songs so well. She told me that most people will Alzheimer's Disease are able to remember older things that happened in their life than the newer events. Because they learned these songs when they were younger, it is easier for them to remember the lyrics than to remember what they ate for dinner two days ago. She also informed me that they are about to try using music as a therapy for one of the members to keep her calmer during the day.

Volunteering at Best Friends Day Center is allowing me to learn different things that I would not usually learn in a tradition communications classroom setting. For that, I am truly grateful for the opportunity I have been given to share my time with Best Friends. I want to thank you for reading, and I look forward to sharing more of my experiences with you in the time to come.

-Anjae

Saturday, October 17, 2015

Service Reflection: Music and Memory

Yesterday, I was able to pay a visit to Best Friends.  We had a busy couple of hours and completed a lot of fun activities!  Our time consisted of: 
  • Trivia games involving riddles, inventors, and various inventions
  • Exercise time! 
  • Ice cream cones (this is quickly becoming a weekly tradition I could get used to!) and great conversation 
  • Finally, we concluded the day with some great singing and of course some dancing too! 
We sang a plethora of songs with our friends while there.  They enjoy various spiritual hymns (“Amazing Grace” is a favorite!), patriotic tunes (“America, the Beautiful” and the “Star-Spangled Banner” are big hits), and classics like “Love Me Tender” or “My Old Kentucky Home.”  

a quotes stating: "medicine heals the body ... music heals the soul"
I thought this quote beautifully encapsulated my thoughts! 
We’ve sung every single time I’ve visited Best Friends, and the more I observe the friends while we sing, the more I realize that they know these songs by heart.  Most of them have trouble seeing the words in the song books we pass out, but they sing anyway.  I experienced this same thing with my great grandmother, who passed away from Alzheimer’s disease a few years ago.  She couldn’t remember who she was or where she was, and she had long stopped recognizing us, her family.  However, she would always be able to recall the words of a familiar tune.  Grandma might not have been able to recall anything about her life, but she could always sing “Amazing Grace.”  

older woman dances while listening to music through headphones
Although we aren't allowed to photograph our friends, I found this picture
 (and the one below and to the right) online
and thought it accurately depicted our afternoons of song and dance!
Found at: http://www.solvangfriendshiphouse.com/donate-now/ 


The friends I have met at Best Friends Day Center are the same way.  They don’t always remember the jobs they’ve had, the names of their children, or even who is coming to pick them up that day, but they always remember the words to their favorite songs.  It amazes me how music can remain a part of someone even when their mental faculties fail them.  It’s truly beautiful to watch them sing and dance to these songs — music
                                                                              brings them such happiness and can
                                                                           provide overwhelming peace to
    Why does the music remain?                              even the most distraught.    

older woman with white curly hair listens to music on headphones
       I have always wondered why music seemed to be the last part of our memory to fade, so I decided to do some research.  I found that a part of the brain called the medial Prefrontal Cortex (mPFC) is one of the very last portions of the brain impacted by Alzheimer’s disease.  Dr. Janata, a psychologist at the University of California-Davis, organized a study that concluded the mPFC portion of the brain is responsible for processing music and connecting it with our memories and emotions (Janata, 2009).  

Hence, those who are affected by Alzheimer’s are able to remember and enjoy music much longer than any other memories they may have.  I will link Dr. Janata’s research here.  
Dr. Janata's research is summarized in the photo above.
 Found at: http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052748704538404574540163096944766 

I am learning so much by volunteering at Best Friends Day Center and cannot wait for more visits in the future.  Continue following our blog for more posts and updates.  Thank you so much for reading! 


- Madalyn 
Reference: 
Janata, P. (2009). The neural architecture of music-evoked autobiographical memories. Cerebral Cortex,
           19(11), 2579-2594. doi: 10.1093/cercor/bhp008

Thursday, October 15, 2015

"How I'm Preparing To Get Alzheimer's" - TED Talk Analysis

TED talks logo beside a speaker talking to a large audience

I chose to complete my analysis on a TED Talk entitled “How I’m Preparing To Get Alzheimer’s” that was presented by Alanna Shaikh.

You can watch the speech here.

Shaikh, a global health expert and TED Fellow, delivered her speech at the official TED conference held in Edinburgh, Scotland in June of 2012. The object of her speech was to heighten awareness of Alzheimer’s disease and dementia as a whole; however, I also think it was extremely therapeutic for her to be able to share her story with others. She encourages her audience to not run from the disease. Instead, she urges her audience to be prepared. 
Alanna Shaikh standing in front of a red background delivering her TED talk in Edinburgh, Scotland in June of 2012.
“If the monster wants you, the monster’s [going to] to get you.”
As viewers, we are not given much information on the audience of this particular speech, so I had to make some inferences.  * The audience seems extremely engaged throughout the entire speech.  When the camera cuts to them, everyone in the frame appears to be enthralled with what Shaikh is saying.  * Everyone seems connected on an emotional level.  It is almost as if some of them have experienced this with someone they love and can relate to Shaikh’s story. 
There appears to be people of ALL backgrounds in the audience, and each one seems engaged.  This further instills the point that dementia does not care who you are – the color of your skin, your religion, how wealthy or successful you have been in life.  If it wants you, it will come for you anyway. 
The audience also laughs at the appropriate times and is solemn when necessary.  These are all strong indicators that they are being respectful and genuinely care about what Shaikh has to say.  They don't hesitate at all to give Shaikh a standing ovation at the end of her speech.  

Shake faces the audience as she finishes her speech ... they give her a standing ovation
The crowd gives Shaikh a standing ovation.
You could tell Shaikh was a little nervous in the beginning (most likely due to the highly emotional and personal content of the speech), but the audience’s reactions and interactions put her to ease.  It’s almost as if the audience was taken aback by the emotional direction the speech took.  It wasn’t as scientific or analytical as other TED talks might be -- it was RAW, it was TOUCHING, it was POIGNANT.

the audience looks on in wonder
The audience gives Shaikh their full attention.
Shaikh makes eye contact with her audience the entire time.  However, she stands very still throughout the entire speech.  Her feet remain in the same position at the end as they did at the beginning.  As the speech continues, she does begin to move her hands, gesturing at certain things.  I think she would have looked more relaxed on stage if she had moved around a little bit.  Standing in one place for the entire speech gave me the impression that she was uncomfortable.  I think bringing along a photo or some type of media component might have made her speech even more personal and reinforced a connection with the audience.  Being able to put a face to a story always RESONATES with an audience. 
Shake makes eye contact with her audience in front of a red background
Shaikh maintains eye contact with the audience throughout her speech. 
Shaikh employs humor to lighten the somewhat deep mood.  Shaikh had no visual aids or props ... she simply talked to her audience as if they were her friends. Additionally, she uses more personal experience to back up her assertions than actual research and fact.  However, I think that this firsthand knowledge is just as valuable. 

 
The speech was organized traditionally and flowed nicely. Shaikh manages to complete the following:   

o   Introduces her connection with Alzheimer’s by discussing her father’s disease.

   o   Brings in statistics about Alzheimer’s in general and how the disease affects the world.

o   Makes her assertion – She is choosing to prepare for Alzheimer’s instead of running from it.

o   Lists the three points she plans to make throughout the speech and begins to discuss each one.
1. Doing more hands-on, fun activities (drawing, origami, knitting) … Hands will oftentimes remember even when the brain can’t.

2. Building physical strength -- yoga, tai chi, weight-bearing exercise

3. Working on becoming a better person (which Shaikh describes is the hardest of them all)

o   Shaikh ends with the concluding statement that she wants a cure for the disease, but that she will be ready just in case the cure doesn't come in her lifetime. 
Shake stands in front of her audience on stage and receives a standing ovation
“I need a heart so pure that if it’s stripped bare by dementia, it will survive.”  

             Overall, I thought Shaikh delivered a strong and inspiring speech, while providing a new perspective on how to deal with the looming potential of Alzheimer’s.   



- Madalyn 

What Does Volunteering Mean To Me?



In this video, I discuss what volunteering means to me and how my experience has been at Best Friends thus far.  I hope this helps give you a little insight into what spending time with our friends is like.  

Thanks for watching!   


- Madalyn